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Losing a loved one can be a devastating loss, making it difficult to begin the planning process of a funeral and make necessary arrangements. Planning your own funeral is equally uncomfortable at times, but crucial to make the grieving process easier on relatives. By taking a few important steps, planning a funeral can be easier than expected. It can even help with the grieving process, being able to take your last opportunity to say goodbye to your loved one and show them what they meant to you and celebrate their life.
Choose Who Will Speak
The people who will speak at a funeral will contribute to how the person is remembered and should know the best aspects of the individual. Plan to have people speak who had a close relationship with the person and respected them. The eulogy can also be given by more than one person, including the clergy. This is the appropriate time to show a slide show that may have been put together. Remember this is a hard time for everyone, it is alright to show emotion, but be sure what idea you want conveyed for the program. You can mourn their death, or celebrate their life.
Consider the Details
There are many funeral homes and other options available for Alternative Burial, Los Angeles haves extra services that include certain types of flowers, printed programs, slide shows, caskets, memorial cards, and grave liners with different styles available. Choose according to the person’s taste and don’t be afraid to look outside of the site, which the home must allow. Common flower arrangements for funerals include standing spray, lid arrangements, casket spray, and matching baskets. But there is no standard for these situations, every person is different and their life can be celebrated in a different way. Make sure what you choose feels right to you and fits the life of the lost loved one.
Choose the Music
Music at any funeral should appropriately reflect the personality and taste of the individual. Classic songs that remind the family and friends of the person in a positive manner, and songs with sentimental messages can be played. Instrumental music is a popular choice, creating a peaceful tone that is soothing and calming to grieving guests. But there are no set rules, remembering that this is your time to remember the loved one in whatever capacity feels right to you and other family members. The funeral should bring feelings of joy and comfort.
Write an Obituary
An obituary should be placed in the local newspaper to inform acquaintances or friends of the death with details of the funeral for anyone who wants to attend. Obituaries can be placed in the local or regional paper, as well as on the Internet. This tradition might seem a bit outdated, but is a time honored tradition that many people view as a form of respect. It is recommended to place these obituaries.
Sons, grandsons, brothers, and close friends should be appointed pallbearers to help serve at the funeral and honor the deceased. If no one is available to serve as pallbearers, then the funeral home should be able to provide pallbearers instead. But keep in mind that this is an honor that should be bestowed upon loved ones and family if at all possible. It is some peoples last opportunity to show the loved one what they meant to them and honor their memory. It is not something to be taken lightly.
Plan the Wake
For many decades, the wake was held in the home of the deceased as a way to gather and meet with other guests to honor the individual. In recent years, wakes have begun to be held in the funeral home with food provided. Consider hiring a catering company or have the funeral home provide the appetizers, beverages, and meals that will be served. This is another opportunity to farther show the guests the loved ones personality and preferences. Serving the deceased favorite foods and beverages give a great chance to bring up stories and memories. You can always have photos up around the gathering to spark stories. This is many peoples chance to remember and enjoy that memory of the loved member.
By planning a funeral as early as possible it gives you time to not only honor the loved one who is no longer with you but allows you to include small details that will help you and others remember in a joyful way. To celebrate their life and have a proper outlet for the warmth and happiness that can bring.
Brionna Kennedy is native to the Pacific Northwest, growing up in Washington, then moving down to Oregon for college. She enjoys writing on fashion and business, but any subject will do, she loves to learn about new topics. When she isn’t writing, she lives for the outdoors. Oregon has been the perfect setting to indulge her love of kayaking, rock climbing, and hiking.